So I wrote the letter I will never send. In it, I ranted about the poor behavior my loved ones have had to endure at the hands of a relative. This is a technique I learned in therapy years ago and it works for me. It allows me to vent privately, use the language I wish to use and gives me the chance to address issues. But, I never send the letter.
That's right, because the venting allows me to release the bad feelings (in vulgar and rude language) without dealing with the fallout of a full on confrontation. The person I directed this tirade at is aging and not who they use to be. I remember the kind person they use to be and wish I had that person back. So shouting at them isn't productive.
The letter written but never sent is a safety valve. Just like prayer or meditation is, it allows for a release and letting go of the anger and frustration I feel. Then, I ask for patience and loving acceptance of what is. Follow me below to leave your requests for the week.
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